With the new year quickly approaching and resolutions dropping left and right I thought it might be poignant to take a look back and rework and “reload” an old article I wrote back in 2005. In all honesty, it was a rush job done as a requested follow-up to an online interview I did with Joey Rodrigues. Now with a more focused spirit and fresh new perspective, I’d like to tackle it again… and it goes a little something like this.
Have you ever stopped to wonder why people are the way they are? What makes them tick? What environmental factors contributed to who they are as a person? I’ve often pondered these questions myself. At 30 years of age, many short-term goals I’ve set out to accomplish and was so passionate about throughout the years, I can actually say that I’ve achieved. Unfortunately, not everyone can say the same. Why is it some people have a certain undeniable ability to see obstacles as a challenge, reach for the stars and OVERCOME, while others cringe at the thought of ever leaving the starting gate?
To get a better understanding, I had to take a good hard look at myself as well as others around me. A stroke at birth caused me to have Cerebral Palsy, resulting in hemiplegia of my left side. So from an early age, I was presented with two options 1) be a survivor and fight an uphill battle to increase overall quality of life, or 2) be a victim resigning to my circumstance, never realizing my fullest potential and squander the opportunity God has provided me. Lucky for me I had great nurturing parents that helped facilitate growth early on. However, it has been a timely process. I’ve grown to learn that I may not be able to control what happens to me in life, but I can control my attitude and how I react to what happens in my world. So why handicap oneself by thinking negatively? That’s really the true nature of a disability. A disability is the inability to do something, the inability to think positively. With a positive attitude I can do anything, I’ve proved it. As you will too. I’ve gone out there and dug a little deeper in the trenches when I thought I got no more. I’ve gotten dirty through my own sweat, and tears. I’ve actually worked for everything I have, and I think that’s what truly defines me. Not to say the struggle to adapt while pushing through my own shortcomings isn’t still going on today. We’ll all have our moments, our bad days. While you may not be where you want to be yet, you’ll be one step closer to your personal goals when considering Rome.
Yes… If Rome wasn’t built in a day, neither will your resolutions come to bare fruit that quickly in 2013 either. Perhaps those who fold against what seems to be insurmountable odds, do so because they’ve grown comfortable with society’s theory of instant gratification. We as a nation are perpetually caught between lazy and overwhelmed. This breeds mediocrity and the instinct to settle. Suffocating, we fall to the path of least resistance. It’s a shame, it really is but I’m here to reach down and lift you up and pull you out so you can breathe new life into your Body, Mind, & Spirit… To quote Elbert Hubbard: “The greatest mistake you can make in life is to be continually fearing you will make one.” The shortest distance between success and failure is taking the first step.
Time and time again, everyone will be faced with some derailing life event. Whether it be an accident, illness, divorce etc. one can easily stress out to the point of mental and/or physical depression exhausting any of your initiative to move forward. It’s always good to keep in mind that stress is very much in the eye of the beholder. By setting realistic goals in the moment, you can begin to harness some of that anxiety or anger towards motivation and productive drive. Having a close friend, like-minded family member, or a network such as a support group to hold you accountable will all help to provide steady goal-oriented traction. Make efforts to love yourself, find sanctuary in things that make you happy and understand that a failed attempt is not the same as a failed goal so long as you’ve learned something in the process. Everyone’s journey in life is different. We should embrace those a few steps ahead, as well as a few steps behind. Much learning can take place to those with an open mind. When listening to the news, there are days it seems we should all be living in a bubble due to the detrimental effects of living! Trust me, I feel you. Where I come from, I’m a big fish in a small pond being looked at as a person of premier health and fitness. But in someone else’s world… maybe not so much. Perspective… Be an active learner to better yourself and pick up things along the way to improve your lifestyle and get one step closer to that personal goal, whatever it may be. Regardless of what happens around you, nobody can take your personal goals and achievements away from you. Another great quote from Hubert Humphrey: “It is not what they take away from you that counts. It’s what you do with what you have left.”… Your life is yours for the taking. It’s up to you to map out the steps needed to make life happen.
True passion needs to come from within. Facilitating growth just doesn’t happen if there is nothing to spark the flame. You have to believe and go after your dreams. It’s possible. Take the first step… make baby steps. Even if you hit the wall smoking and spinning, keep thinking about nothing but winning. You’ll win by attrition. You will succeed as did I. Nothing replaces the hard work you put into it. For real results, remember there are no shortcuts. Stay positive and visualized what you want your life to be like to transcend that energy and make a commitment to yourself that you will OVERCOME any obstacle life brings your way. Remember 2012 is in the past. That chapter of our lives has already been written. 2013 comes with blank pages to write on. What is your goals for 2013? Write it down and LIVE IT… Lets make the best of it together my friends!